Many people in abusive relationships may not recognize the abuse or may feel unable to leave. If you suspect that a friend or loved one is experiencing abuse, your support can make a powerful difference. Remember: the decision to stay or leave ultimately lies with them. Your role is to be a consistent, compassionate presence.

Often, the most meaningful thing you can do is listen without judgment and offer a safe space for them to talk openly. Let them know:

• The abuse is not their fault
  
• No one deserves to be treated with cruelty or control
  
• They are worthy of respect, honesty, and safety
  

Avoid criticizing their choices or pressuring them to take specific actions. While it’s natural to want to “fix” the situation, unsolicited advice or harsh judgments can push them away or make them feel ashamed. Instead, focus on letting them know they’re not alone and that you’re there for them—no matter what.

Need help? You’re not alone.
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, call The Retreat’s free, 24-hour, multilingual hotline at 631-329-2200. Our trained responders provide confidential, trauma-informed support, safety planning, and resources for children, adults, and families affected by domestic violence, sexual assault, and human trafficking.