Myths vs Realities of Domestic Violence by The Retreat

There are so many myths about domestic abuse.

Is domestic abuse something that should be kept in the family? Is it loss of control? Are abusers violent in all relationships? Inform yourself and learn about the reality behind these myths.

One in four women and one in seven men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

Misconceptions about domestic abuse hinder people from seeking help.

Abuse comes in different forms, so misconceptions are prevalent. Inform yourself and learn the facts behind abusive situations.



Abuse can happen to anyone at any time. You don't have to face it alone. We are here to help.

You don’t deserve domestic violence nor do you have to face it alone. We are here to help you through it.

Take a test to find out if you are being abused.

My son got caught in the cross fire. He almost got hit and I said to myself, if you’re not gonna leave for yourself, leave for your son. I sold my engagement ring to pay for an attorney to get an order of protection, and we went to The Retreat, to begin to heal.

Anonymous Survivor

I was scared I couldn’t live without him. But once he was gone, I realized I could provide for my family. I was better off without him. I told him the day I leave you is forever.

Shelter Resident

Someone once told my daughter that when a boy is mean to you, it means he likes you. But I say to them, there is never a time when someone being mean to you is love. Ever. There is never a time when someone hurting you translates to love.

Anonymous Survivor

How to Support a Friend

How to Support a Friend

Encourage them to call The Retreat and let them know all services are free & confidential

Prevent domestic abuse through community education. Volunteer for our programs.

Ask “Are you okay?”
Remind them “This isn’t your fault.”
Document the abuse. Keep photos, screenshots, a journal, police reports, and hospital records.
Encourage your friend to seek help.
Listen and show support.
If you witness the abuse, speak up if you feel safe, and get help.

Know someone being abused?

Help a friend or a family member whose situation and behavior is worrying. While family violence or abuse can be a tricky subject to navigate, equipping yourself with the right information can help you be there for them.